Session Two – How She Lives

Hi darlings , how are you? 

So… session two of The Boardroom Bible Collective was, in short, emotional. We had laughter, we had tears, we had challenging conversations, but it was great.  I've named this session ‘How She Lives’ because that is the whole point of us studying this series. Like I said in the previous notes from session one, we are starting out with Proverbs because that is the blueprint for how a woman should be in every capacity of her life. So lets dive straight into the session.

We started our session with this prayer: 

Dear Lord, 

We all come before you today to say thank you for bringing us all together to study your word and to learn to be more like you in all areas of our lives.  

We pray that you help us gain more wisdom in your word and help us discern what it really means, and give us the tools and protocols to apply it to our lives, not just for now but for always. And the things that we do learn, we pass on to the people we know, that being our partners, children, parents, co workers etc and whoever else that comes across our paths in life. 

Lord, help us to really walk in the path you have mapped out and chosen for each and everyone of us. And if we come across any hindrance or opposition, I pray that lord you surround us with a hedge of protection like you did for Job, and you protect us like your word says in Psalm 91. Lord send your angels to fight for us and to clear our paths.  We can do all things through you Lord who strengthens us, so we pray that you please give us guidance, understanding, wisdom and courage to do what we need to in you.

Thank you lord, in Jesus mighty name - Amen.  

Session Notes: 

Before we even moved forward, we took time to reflect on the principles from the last session and discussed how we actually applied them in real life. And honestly, this is where it gets exciting, because this is where you start to see God moving beyond the room and into people's everyday lives, (honestly, as the ladies were talking, I was sat there smiling and saying to God in my head “thank you Lord, they’re actually applying it” because truthfully, leading this group is out of my comfort zone, but as I said before, its  out of obedience I've created this). 

In the reflection, one of the ladies shared that she already feels more equipped simply because she’s been learning more of the Bible, even down to using the Bible app more intentionally (if you don't have this on your phone, it's a really good resource that gives you daily learning and application of the Word). A situation came up at work where she stopped and thought, “Who am I becoming?” Instead of reacting how she might have done before, 

she held herself, applied the principles we spoke about in the last session, and handled the situation with much more wisdom.

Another one of the ladies shared a very similar experience. She felt anger rising in a very heated situation and consciously chose to walk away because she didn’t want to be that version of herself anymore. Previously, she probably would have reacted. This time, she didn’t. Well done my darling.

That’s God moving. Not just in circumstances, but in our minds and hearts. Real renewal. Thank You, Lord, for everything You’re doing in and for us. Please keep renewing our minds and shaping us into the people You want us to be. Just a note, there's a song that just popped into my head whilst I'm writing, that aligns with this - ‘Give me a Clean Heart’ by Fred Hammond - it's beautiful, give it a listen. If I could tag it here for you to click on I would, I'm not quite that tech savvy yet - but leave it with me lol. 

We also revisited the idea of being a half hearted Christian - we don't do that round here my love. One of the ladies shared honestly that she’d fallen off in her walk for personal reasons, but now felt God calling her back. It was such a reminder that God always invites us back into alignment. He doesn’t shame us although sometimes we may feel it. He restores us - he's such a darling.

Wisdom in How We Speak: The first scripture we studied was Proverbs 10:19  - “In the multitude of words there wanteth not sin: but he that refraineth his lips is wise.” (KJV)

This verse really anchored the session.

We spoke about how this isn’t God telling women to be quiet, it's not the days of speak only when you're spoken to. It’s about restraint, timing, and discernment. There is a time, a place and a person to speak to, a time to wait, and a time to stay silent, and wisdom helps us know the difference. I say a person to speak to, because you need to discern people's intentions, not everyone has good ones. Some people can appear to be your friend or be supportive and sometimes have ill intentions towards you. Although something may look like it's a diamond, sometimes it can be the cheap knock off cubic zirconia £10 counterfeit version that has no substance but tries to imitate the real thing - do you see where I'm going with this one… 

A couple of the women shared how they had lived this out in work situations by deliberately keeping their mouths shut, even when they had every right to speak. And let’s be honest, that’s growth, lol.

We talked about how timing and restraint often come from surrender. When we hold onto things too tightly, we don’t give God space to move on our behalf. This even opened up a really honest conversation about the season many of us are entering now, including mothering our mothers. Life shifts, roles change, and wisdom looks different at every stage.

We were reminded not to lose hope and to keep praying for people, even though sometimes we may find that hard. God is always working, even when we can’t see or feel it.

This tied in beautifully with:

“Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath.” (James 1:19)

Sometimes the wisest response is no response at all.

Humility, Pride & Wise Counsel - The second scripture we studied was Proverbs 11:2 – “When pride cometh, then cometh shame: but with the lowly is wisdom.” (KJV)

This verse led us into one of the deepest conversations of the night.

We spoke about pride not always being loud or obvious. To all the ladies who feel like they need to be independent - this one's for you.

Sometimes pride looks like independence.  “I’ll just do it myself.”  “I don’t want to spend the money.”  “It’s quicker if I just handle it.”

Darling, I’ve done this myself, many times. One time I didn't want to wait for a decorator because he had a 3 month wait, so I decided to do it myself - absolute disaster! Ruined my floor and radiator cover and still had to wait for the decorator anyway - I was fuming. I've also done this in work over the previous years. Things like not asking for help because of the initial outlay. Thinking it’s easier to carry everything myself. Sometimes that’s responsibility, but sometimes it’s pride dressed up as control. Wisdom helps us tell the difference.

We also spoke about being direct. Being direct does not mean being horrible. It means being intentional. How someone receives the truth isn’t always your responsibility, but how you deliver it is. 

We spoke about delivery specifically. If someone is direct and they are speaking to somebody who is let's say fluffy and soft and doesn't receive directness well, even though it's not coming across harshly,  who would be the one to change or adapt in this situation? 

There were different perspectives on this. We had a healthy debate. I would love to know your thoughts in the comments and what you think about this.  My perspective is that nobody should change, it's about understanding, delivery and awareness, yes, but a person should understand who they're talking to or receiving information from and not take it personal because no one should have to change their character or who they are just because of somebody else's character. That's like saying one is better or more important than the other, and God didn't make us like that. 

Let me know your thoughts

This grounded us in:

“Speaking the truth in love.” (Ephesians 4:15)

Wisdom checks tone, not truth - honestly my one liners in this session were on fire you know!

Unequally Yoked & Big Life Decisions

This session also opened up a very honest and needed conversation about being unequally yoked.

There were different perspectives in the room, and that’s important. Someone shared that walking with Christ now means they wouldn’t enter a relationship with someone who doesn’t follow Him, because it doesn't align with who they are and who they are becoming. Others shared their lived reality of being married to someone who didn’t believe at the time, but is now slowly coming to faith. One husband has even asked for a Bible, which is beautiful.

What came out of this wasn’t judgement (we all know there is only one person who can judge), it was wisdom and understanding.

God is omnipresent. He sees everyone’s journey. Sometimes He allows things we don’t fully understand because He sees what’s coming later. For some women, they didn’t know enough about Christ at the time they entered the relationship. For others, having done the work and grown in faith, they now choose alignment differently.

The key lesson here was the importance of wise counsel. Scripture tells us to seek it so we’re not led by emotion (remember last time we spoke about guarding our hearts), especially in life changing decisions. Wise counsel helps us see clearly when our hearts are involved, and the heart is the very thing we’re told to guard.

Planning With God & Hearing Him - The next scripture was Proverbs 16:9 – “A man’s heart deviseth his way: but the Lord directeth his steps.” (KJV)

We spoke about how we make plans ALL. THE. TIME! Goals, new years resolutions, new seasons. All good things. But how many of us actually stick to them? And how many of those plans were things we wanted, rather than what God wanted? How many of them are aligned with the life God has for us? 

Sometimes what worked in the previous season isn’t for this season. That applies to work, projects, relationships, and people. Wisdom knows when to consult God and how to hear Him.

We talked about confirmation. God speaks in different ways:

• A sense of peace or discomfort
• Repeated signs or themes
• Scripture that feels like it’s reading you
• Words spoken through people
  
  

We laughed about “code word” confirmations and shared examples of how God confirms things differently for each of us. God knows our thoughts, darling. He doesn’t need everything announced out loud.

We also touched on boundaries, something many of us admitted we’ve had to learn the hard way. Sometimes that gut feeling that something isn’t right is the Holy Spirit warning us. Wisdom listens, even when it doesn’t make sense.

This tied us back to “But let your ‘Yes’ be ‘Yes,’ and your ‘No,’ ‘No.’ For whatever is more than these is from the evil one.” Matthew 5:37 (NKJV)

Boundaries are biblical, and don't let anyone ever make you feel bad for them! 

Correction With Wisdom - The next scripture we studied was Proverbs 31:26 – “She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.” (KJV)

This is where our growth really shows.

I shared honestly that I used to be very cut throat. Two mistakes and I was done. High standards (I still have these by the way), strict processes, and little tolerance. And whilst my standards haven’t changed, my discernment has.

God has changed my delivery, not my boundaries. I’ve learned to give the benefit of the doubt, while still being vigilant. To watch patterns, not one off mistakes, because: “Ye shall know them by their fruits.” (Matthew 7:16).

Correction now comes with wisdom, with kindness, with love. I heard a saying a few months back that said “I want my tongue to speak life not be a knife” and that stuck with me. 

Wisdom doesn’t rush to write people off. It watches fruit. Keep your eyes open. People will show you who they are and what they can do, just watch.  

Session Two Key Takeaway Points

- There is power in the pause - look at what some of the ladies told us at the beginning. Some things there is a time, a person and a place for, and some things don't deserve a reaction at all. 

- Wisdom isn’t about being soft, or silent. It’s about being led. Surrender, it sharpens your discernment - let God lead.

- Seek wise counsel, especially someone who knows or is further along in their journey with God than you. I mean you'd get a mentor for work, why not for your spiritual journey? Big decisions should never be made in isolation or emotion. God places people around us to help us see clearly.

- Correction should bring growth, not destruction. Wisdom watches patterns (you’ll know a man by his fruit), speaks truth with intention and love, and allows room for grace without lowering standards. darlings , NEVER lower your standards.

- How we live reveals who we follow. Our words, reactions, and decisions are often the loudest testimony of Christ in us. Again, keep watching, but also watch and check yourself darling.

And let me say this clearly: don’t let the devil get your mind, so he doesn’t get your actions.

I’m genuinely so proud of the depth, honesty, and hunger in this group already. These conversations are shaping future sessions, and that tells me God is leading this, not us forcing it. This is just the beginning.

Thank You, God, for everything You’re doing in us and through us, and thank you guys, wherever you are for reading. 

Thats all from the boardroom. 

See you at the next meeting. 

Hannah-Curlita x